What would love do?
What would love do?
When you’re faced with difficult questions or everyday decisions call on love, lovers!
I was reminded of this the other day when asked to do something I wasn’t keen on doing. In fact I was groaning at the thought! Saying no didn’t feel right, but I also felt like saying yes was a big fat chore.
When I took a few deep breaths and asked myself from a place of presence ‘what would love do?’ the answer came instantly and a sense of relief came over me. Love said yes in this instance, and it changed how I felt about the situation. It altered my mindset and perception, I no longer felt resistant, but had instead adopted an attitude of love that changed my whole experience.
We are bombarded with questions, choices and options daily. I often get stuck in my rational mind, analyzing the pros and cons, the why and why not’s and am left stressed and confused, in a hot mess of overwhelm! We use our logical brain way too much and neglect our heart and gut brains – our feeling and processing centres. We are also not equipped with the best language to communicate with ourselves.
The quality of the answers we receive in life is directly related to the quality of the questions we ask.
Here are a few things to consider when you’re next mulling on a decision or situation.
-Instead of asking less empowering things like ‘What ‘should’ I do’, (‘should’ the killer of all motivation and inspiration) try taking a few deep breaths, centre yourself in the present and ask yourself ‘What would love do?’ You’ll often find that the answer comes instantly and you’ll feel immediate relief in your body from this peace filled clarity. Remember love also says no and that can be uncomfortable for people who are natural people- pleasers, if it involves saying no to someone else!
-Connect to your heart brain or feeling body. Take some deep breaths and place your hand on your heart. Tap or rub your heart area gently, bringing your awareness into your feeling body. Start to breath deeply into the core of your heart centre. You can even name your heart – I learnt the heart naming technique from Sonia Coquette. Once you’ve named your heart ask it directly, ‘what does my heart say’ or finish the sentence ‘and my heart says…” or ‘what does …(fill blank with your hearts name) say’. Don’t overthink your heart name, whatever comes to you first. You can also try ‘what does my soul/higher self say’ or ‘what does my inner wisdom say?’ This can be said out loud or written down.
-Often we can get into the mindset ‘What am I going to get out of this’… situation, person or experience. But this mindset comes from a place of lack. Try instead to ask ‘Does this bring me joy’, which comes from a place of self-love. You can also try flipping the question around and ask ‘What can I give’, ‘How can I be of service’, in this situation, to this person etc. What you give out energetically returns to you tenfold in some form. It’s a radical act of self-love if it is done from a place of pure unconditional love, with no strings attached. It’s also important to centre yourself and really feel into your intention behind whatever your choice is.
-Try to see the bigger picture. We often get absorbed in the current miniscule details of situations but taking time to be the viewer, sit back and view your thoughts and the situation from an objective, aerial view. Try this meditation:
In your ‘minds eye’ see a bird in front of you and get on the birds back, let it fly you up into the sky, past the clouds until you can only see clear blue sky. Now from this perspective ask yourself the question or consider the situation you are pondering. Or imagine yourself rising up on top of a mountain and when you are at it’s peak ask yourself the question from up there.
See through the eyes of love, live from a more heart lead place and watch the miracles unfold baby!